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The Help
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I have this terrible, dreary feeling in my diaphragm area this morning, and I’m not positive what it’s about, but I blame some of it on this book, which I am not going to finish. I have a friend who is mad at me right now for liking stupid stuff, but the thing is that I do like stupid stuff sometimes, and I think it would be really boring to only like smart things. What I don’t like is when smart (or even middle-brained) writers take an important topic and make it petty through guessing about what they don’t know. I can list you any number of these writers who would be fine if they weren't reaching into topics about which they have no personal experience (incidentally, all writers I'm pretty sure my angry friend loves. For example, The Lovely Bones, The Kite Runner, Water for Elephants, Memoirs of a Geisha, etc.). These are the books for which I have no patience, topics that maybe someone with more imagination or self-awareness could have written about compassionately, without exploiting the victimization of the characters. They’re books that hide lazy writing behind a topic you can’t criticize. The Help is one of these.
You’ve got this narrative telephone game in this book. The telephone game is pretty fun sometimes, and it is really beautiful in monster stories like Frankenstein and Wuthering Heights because what they are telling me is not intended as trustworthy or earnest. All of the seriousness in monster stories is an impression or an emotion reflected back through the layers of narrative. I don’t feel that way about the topic of The Help, though. In this book, a white woman writes from the point of view of a black woman during the Civil Rights movement, who overhears the conversations of white women. It's an important topic, and I don't want to hear it through untrustworthy narrators.
So, I can basically get on board with the dialect of the black maids, but what throws me off as a reader is when the black maid is quoting the white women and they’re all speaking perfect English without a trace of an accent. It becomes particularly weird when one of the black maids starts to comment on the extreme accent of one of the white women, Celia Foote, whose written dialogue continues to be impeccable. Who is this narrator? Why does she choose not to speak proper English if she can speak it? Why does she choose to give proper English to someone else who she has told me doesn't speak it? Also, usually the layers of narration in a telephone-game book are only within the book. In this case, it’s the author’s voice stabbing through the story. I am convinced it is her whose brain hears the white woman speaking TV English, and the black women speaking in dialect. It gives away the game.
Even the quotes from the movie have an example of this. A conversation between her and Minnie goes like this:
Celia Foote: They don't like me because of what they think I did.
Minny Jackson: They don't like you 'cause they think you white trash.
Celia speaks in a proper sentence, but Minny misses the "are" in the second part of the sentence. Celia says "because," but Minny says "'cause." If the reader were supposed to understand that Celia does not speak in dialect, that would make sense, but since it specifically states that she does, it doesn't make sense.
To attempt to be clear, I didn't have a problem that the book was in dialect. I had a problem that the book said, "This white woman speaks in an extreme dialect," and then wrote the woman's dialog not in dialect. Aerin points out in message 111 that I am talking about eye dialect, which is about spelling, not pronunciation, as in the example above. Everyone, in real life, speaks in some form of non-standard English. Though I have seen some really beautiful uses of eye dialect, as Aerin points out, writers typically use it to show subservience of characters or that they are uneducated, which often has racist overtones. If it troubles you that I'm saying this, and you would like to comment on this thread, you may want to read other comments because it is likely someone has already said what you are going to say.
I’m not finishing this one, and it’s not because I think people shouldn’t like it, but rather because I’m almost 100 pages in and I can see the end, and it’s failed to engage me. When a few IRL friends have asked what I thought of the book and I said I didn't care for it, they have told me that I am taking it too seriously, that it is just a silly, fluff book, not a serious study of Civil Rights. Again, I don’t have a problem with stupid books, but when it’s a stupid book disguised as an Important Work of Cultural History, all I want to do the whole time is tear its mask off. And a book about Civil Rights is always important cultural history to me. Anyway, the book becomes unpleasant; I become unpleasant; it’s bad news. If you loved this book, though, (or, really, even if you hated it) I would recommend Coming of Age in Mississippi. I think that book is one of the more important records of American history. Plus, it’s beautifully written, inspirational, and shocking. It's been years since I read it, so I might be giving it an undeserved halo, but I can’t say enough good things about it.
INDEX OF PROBLEMS WITH THIS REVIEW
"You should finish the book before you talk about it": comment 150 (second paragraph); comments 198 and 199.
“Stockett did experience the Civil Rights Era”: comment 154; comment 343.
“The author of The Lovely Bones was raped”: comment 190.
“The author of The Kite Runner is from Afghanistan”: comment 560.
"Memoirs of a Geisha is accurate and not comparable to The Help": comment 574.
“Don’t be so critical!”: comment 475.
“Have you written a bestseller?”: comment 515.
“Fiction doesn’t have to be a history lesson”: comments 157 through 162.
“Having grown up in the South during this era and having had a maid, I could relate to the emotional nuances of this book”: comments 222 and 223.
"Minny and Aibileen are relatable": comment 626
“You are trying to silence authors”: comment 317 and comments 306 through 316.
“Why do you want to read a Civil Rights book about racism and hatred? I would prefer one about friendship and working together”: comment 464.
“Why are there so many votes for such a half-assed review?”: comment 534.
“Authors can write outside of their personal experiences”: comments 569 through 587.
You’ve got this narrative telephone game in this book. The telephone game is pretty fun sometimes, and it is really beautiful in monster stories like Frankenstein and Wuthering Heights because what they are telling me is not intended as trustworthy or earnest. All of the seriousness in monster stories is an impression or an emotion reflected back through the layers of narrative. I don’t feel that way about the topic of The Help, though. In this book, a white woman writes from the point of view of a black woman during the Civil Rights movement, who overhears the conversations of white women. It's an important topic, and I don't want to hear it through untrustworthy narrators.
So, I can basically get on board with the dialect of the black maids, but what throws me off as a reader is when the black maid is quoting the white women and they’re all speaking perfect English without a trace of an accent. It becomes particularly weird when one of the black maids starts to comment on the extreme accent of one of the white women, Celia Foote, whose written dialogue continues to be impeccable. Who is this narrator? Why does she choose not to speak proper English if she can speak it? Why does she choose to give proper English to someone else who she has told me doesn't speak it? Also, usually the layers of narration in a telephone-game book are only within the book. In this case, it’s the author’s voice stabbing through the story. I am convinced it is her whose brain hears the white woman speaking TV English, and the black women speaking in dialect. It gives away the game.
Even the quotes from the movie have an example of this. A conversation between her and Minnie goes like this:
Celia Foote: They don't like me because of what they think I did.
Minny Jackson: They don't like you 'cause they think you white trash.
Celia speaks in a proper sentence, but Minny misses the "are" in the second part of the sentence. Celia says "because," but Minny says "'cause." If the reader were supposed to understand that Celia does not speak in dialect, that would make sense, but since it specifically states that she does, it doesn't make sense.
To attempt to be clear, I didn't have a problem that the book was in dialect. I had a problem that the book said, "This white woman speaks in an extreme dialect," and then wrote the woman's dialog not in dialect. Aerin points out in message 111 that I am talking about eye dialect, which is about spelling, not pronunciation, as in the example above. Everyone, in real life, speaks in some form of non-standard English. Though I have seen some really beautiful uses of eye dialect, as Aerin points out, writers typically use it to show subservience of characters or that they are uneducated, which often has racist overtones. If it troubles you that I'm saying this, and you would like to comment on this thread, you may want to read other comments because it is likely someone has already said what you are going to say.
I’m not finishing this one, and it’s not because I think people shouldn’t like it, but rather because I’m almost 100 pages in and I can see the end, and it’s failed to engage me. When a few IRL friends have asked what I thought of the book and I said I didn't care for it, they have told me that I am taking it too seriously, that it is just a silly, fluff book, not a serious study of Civil Rights. Again, I don’t have a problem with stupid books, but when it’s a stupid book disguised as an Important Work of Cultural History, all I want to do the whole time is tear its mask off. And a book about Civil Rights is always important cultural history to me. Anyway, the book becomes unpleasant; I become unpleasant; it’s bad news. If you loved this book, though, (or, really, even if you hated it) I would recommend Coming of Age in Mississippi. I think that book is one of the more important records of American history. Plus, it’s beautifully written, inspirational, and shocking. It's been years since I read it, so I might be giving it an undeserved halo, but I can’t say enough good things about it.
INDEX OF PROBLEMS WITH THIS REVIEW
"You should finish the book before you talk about it": comment 150 (second paragraph); comments 198 and 199.
“Stockett did experience the Civil Rights Era”: comment 154; comment 343.
“The author of The Lovely Bones was raped”: comment 190.
“The author of The Kite Runner is from Afghanistan”: comment 560.
"Memoirs of a Geisha is accurate and not comparable to The Help": comment 574.
“Don’t be so critical!”: comment 475.
“Have you written a bestseller?”: comment 515.
“Fiction doesn’t have to be a history lesson”: comments 157 through 162.
“Having grown up in the South during this era and having had a maid, I could relate to the emotional nuances of this book”: comments 222 and 223.
"Minny and Aibileen are relatable": comment 626
“You are trying to silence authors”: comment 317 and comments 306 through 316.
“Why do you want to read a Civil Rights book about racism and hatred? I would prefer one about friendship and working together”: comment 464.
“Why are there so many votes for such a half-assed review?”: comment 534.
“Authors can write outside of their personal experiences”: comments 569 through 587.
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Again, I didn't have a problem that the book was in dialect. I had a problem that the book said, "This white woman speaks in an extreme dialect," and then wrote the woman's dialog not in dialect. I'll try to edit that in the review to make it clearer. I think it comes from the assumption that white people speak "correctly" and black people don't. If it doesn't come from that assumption, I think it at least promotes that assumption. I have a problem with that assumption.
I'm not sure if you're saying I should be more tolerant of negative assumptions about minorities. If that's what you're saying, I'll respect your opinions, but I don't agree.


So although everyone's pronunciation differs from English orthography to one degree or another, eye dialects in literature are typically only used for the lower classes or racial minorities. Which has racist and/or classist overtones. As Wikipedia puts it:
Eye dialect is often employed when authors wish to establish a sympathetic sense of superiority between themselves and the reader as contrasted with the non-standard speech of the character. Such spellings serve mainly to "denigrate the speaker so represented by making him or her appear boorish, uneducated, rustic, gangsterish, and so on". "The convention violated is one of the eyes, not of the ear".
It's ironic that in a book specifically focusing on racism, the author chose to render the Black characters' speech in eye dialect.
(Meredith, correct me if I'm way off here. I just see people getting hung up on the "dialect" thing again and again in this thread, and seemingly missing the point completely.)


i have been heavy all my life and the fat girl always get picked on.
Wow, Beth, that's so rough how you are the only person on goodreads who has experienced persecution.



I completely agree with what you're saying. I know Zora Neale Hurston was really ostracized for criticizing black men during the Harlem Renaissance, but I feel like that is really different than this book. I don't think that was fair, even though I understand the justifications for the ostracism, because I think the way she did it was specific and spoke to her particular experiences, and then she has men like Tea Cake in Their Eyes Were Watching God, and he's a swoon and a half. Anyway, the Help is so different from that because it goes so far beyond the author's own experience to use those stereotypes. I think it would have been an exponentially better book if it was all from Skeeter's point of view.
I agree, though, that the stereotypes seemed really assumed, rather than intentional.


“So, I can basically get on board with the dialect of the black maids, but what throws me off as a reader is when the black maid is quoting the white women and they’re all speaking perfect”
Actually, the maids talked like that because that it how they identified rich people and that is what was understood. They did not have to mention one white person yet the church knew who was talked about. It is African-Americans perhaps dare I say belligerence of “back in the day.” They believed that speaking proper is what contributed to riches in a white race. Oh, and perhaps they did not speak proper English between themselves because that is how they were raised and taught and speaking proper required effort not because they did not know how to.
So my question is to you, why the end you can so clearly see failed to engage you?
And this is a spoiler, Elizabeth’s daughter, May Mobley, does not tell her parents all the secret race discussions she and the maid had. Instead she points her finger at her grade school teacher, understanding that she is racist and that it is wrong. The book that was written eventually got the maid fired, but she was happy because of what raising a child has done to her. She enjoyed May Mobley so much and was so proud of her that it gave her strength to start new.
She loved a white child who loved her back. How is this racist? How is this telephone game?
Well, I just hope you give a try. I really enjoyed your input on this and by the way , I have enjoyed Memoirs of a Geisha and The Lovely Bones.

Well, it sounded like everyone ends up realizing just how silly race relations are and the poor, little black people become really grateful to the white people for what they've learned, and everyone holds hands and skips for a while. I mean, it's been a long time since I wrote this, and even when I wrote it, I couldn't remember what I had read about the end, but it sounded real jolly and camp-firey, which really rubs me the wrong way when it comes to a book about Civil Rights. It sounds both trite and boring, where I think Civil Rights is neither trite nor boring.
I'm not calling the book stupid as an insult, actually. That is what my friends who really loved it kept calling it to me. They would say, "Oh, it is just a silly, fluff book, and you are not enjoying it because you are taking it too seriously." So, I'd compare it to Twilight, which I really enjoyed. Twilight is a stupid book, but it makes sense to me to write a stupid, fluff book about vampires. That is what vampires are there for, as far as I'm concerned. It does not make sense to me to write a stupid, fluff book about Civil Rights.
I don't know what this means: It is African-Americans perhaps dare I say belligerence of “back in the day.”
It is not my experience with other books by black authors that they purposely write dialogue of black people in eye dialect and white people in plain English.
I'm not surprised that you would like the other books. You should try Water for Elephants. It's pretty similar to those, too.

Well, it sounded like everyone ends up realizing just how silly race relations are and the poor, l..."
I can see so much clearly now where you are coming from! I think Stockett played on civil rights but she just used it as a setting.She really wanted to focus on collectivness of the maids and their friendships. :) Twilight is a stupid book , but I like it because you are so right that it does make sense to write something silly about vampires.



you read my mind here- "Even more importantly than this though, is how the book challenged my own previously held beliefs about friendship and family. "



Meredith wrote: "Wow, you got really different info than me. Next time, I'm totally taking that Ulysses class. I heard you only have to read, like, a third of the book."
That's what I did. Word.
That's what I did. Word.

Very patient. And his aesthetic sense is so generous and understanding. It was an amazing class.


Maybe it was just how I read it, but yeah. I'm from Missouri, so it's a big mix of north and south right here (I mean, during the civil war, NEIGHBORS were on opposite sides), and my family is from more southern Missouri (I'm from northwestern) so I heard quite a bit of a mixed hick-to-southern accent, depending on just how FAR south, lol.
My husband's from the Pacific Northwest, so I wonder if he'll read it more like you did.

http://newblackman.blogspot.com/2011/...
I don't know if this link will work, but I hope so. This article mentions the problematic eye dialect, as well as other issues.
I don't know if this link will work, but I hope so. This article mentions the problematic eye dialect, as well as other issues.



I think the last time I finished a book because someone said what you're saying, it was Wild at Heart. Did not end well. I'm usually pretty good at feeling out whether a book is for me or not by 100 pages. It's too bad that the notes, which I initially wrote to myself to remind me not to finish the book, were so boring to you, but thems the internets I guess.

Great advice! Except, if you're going to get this worked up about a book review, shouldn't you at least finish it? Cuz, you know, otherwise the irony might be incredibly hilarious.


The link Ceridwen posted probably says it better, so I am going to post it again, because I think it's amazing: http://newblackman.blogspot.com/2011/...


Anyway, that's my take on historical fiction, but I know some people don't feel like it's harmful to be inaccurate about history, so maybe you feel like that?

How about how the author of The Help was sued by the woman who raised her, for misrepresenting her character? I don't think this woman will win the suit, because on some level fiction = lies, but I don't have to respect when fiction = lies.

Also, I used your fundamental dishonesty™ phrase.
pardon my take on this, but a simple, good fictional STORY has gotten blown out of proportion. can any one of you who have written about this book honestly tell me you have experienced ANY kind of persecution? either personally or via your relatives? i have, in many different facets of my life.
i have been heavy all my life and the fat girl always get picked on.
i am jewish and in the 70s when i took off from school for two of our most holy days, rosh hashana and yom kippur, they were considered unexcused absences.
in the 60s there were still signs outside of some jersey shore motels that read "no jews or blacks allowed". at least we had company in that one.
being divorced was no picnic either, my married girlfriends not knowing how to deal with me and getting excluded from gstherings.
meredith, i respect your review and feelings but a little tolerance can go a very long way.